1. According to my understanding of inter-sect marriage till now. It is recommend that you marry each other only if she is ready to accept and become a Shia. If she doesn't it will impact you children and your marriage. We have seen in may cases where Imams tell us to marry a woman thinking that she haRead more

    According to my understanding of inter-sect marriage till now.

    It is recommend that you marry each other only if she is ready to accept and become a Shia.

    If she doesn’t it will impact you children and your marriage.

    We have seen in may cases where Imams tell us to marry a woman thinking that she has to educate our children. If you marry someone with this thinking then you will be sure that your children are in good hands.

    If the girl you are marrying doesn’t become shia and if she shaitan misguides her into teaching your children against your believes then it’s going to give you troubles.

    In Islam, the upbringing is mostly done by mother and in most cases children are connected with mother more than father. Therefore picking a right mother for your children is your responsibility and if you fail to do that then yes it is going to be your fault if children follow her even if you tell them about Ahlulbait.

     

    If you still want to marry her and she doesn’t become a shia then make sure the upbringing of children is done by you so they can be close to the Imam of our time. Remember being a shia our responsibility is to not only tell our children about Ahlulbait but to make sure they are close to our Imam of time to.

    Children do what they see.

    If they see your wife doing something they’ll follow it.

    If they see you and get inspiration from it they’ll follow you.

    I hope it helps.

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  2. It is important for you to understand that, it will not happen within a week, leaving a bad habit takes time and you have to be patient. First of all block all the apps/websites that can arouse you in a way that'll lead you to that act. If you are using phone then divert your mind with knowledgeableRead more

    It is important for you to understand that, it will not happen within a week, leaving a bad habit takes time and you have to be patient.

    First of all block all the apps/websites that can arouse you in a way that’ll lead you to that act. If you are using phone then divert your mind with knowledgeable YouTube videos, do anything that will divert your mind from that situation. Here you have to work on yourself and strengthen your will power.

    Second I would suggest that you leave your phone aside and get out of your room. Take some fresh air, sit with your parents and sit somewhere people can easily surround you. So that when you are with people around you, the need to do that will go away. Don’t stay alone at these times, as shaitan will try it’s best and I am telling you the best to make you do that sin. Don’t underestimate him, he will attack you the more you try to resist. Therefore you have to be strong.

    Third, before sleeping always talk to Imam of our time(may allah hasten his appearance) and tell him how much you want to leave this act and ask him to make dua for you.

    There are few things that I tell my friends I’ll tell it to you too-

     

    When you are feeling aroused then think that allah is looking at you, now matter how much you hide he is looking at you. If that doesn’t affect you then think your Imam is always looking at you. Whenever you feel like doing it know that Imam is seeing you doing that sin and he will be disappointed in you.

    The fear of disappointing our imam will inshallah stop you from doing it.

     

    If that still doesn’t help think about the time when shaitan told allah how he will misguide us into doing sins and allah said that those who are mine won’t be misled by you.

    Imagine how much trust allah has on you, and while you listen to the shaitan and do that act, you are letting shaitan laugh in triumph.

     

    Always remember that no matter what sins you have committed allah is merciful and all forgiving. Don’t ever think that now you have crossed the line and your sins won’t be forgiven. He is our allah, he is happy more than we can imagine when we ask for his forgiveness.

    Don’t lose hope in allah, and talk to Imam of our time whenever you feel the urge to do any sin. Trust me talking to him impacts the soul of a believer in such a way that you can’t even imagine.

    Be patient and always remember Imam of our time and how you don’t want him to look at you with disappointment.

    I hope it helps you. Don’t lose hope.

    And Eid mubarak ✨

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