Assalamu alikum . How do one gets rid of porn addiction and masturbation issues. How can one person leave all of these?
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Assalamu alikum . How do one gets rid of porn addiction and masturbation issues. How can one person leave all of these?
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
Masturbation is haram and Imam Ali a.s punished a youth who professed to have committed masturbation and Imam Ali a.s hit his hand with which the boy committed masturbation so much that it become red.
Another harm of masturbation besides displeasure of Allah is that it will minimize your sexual ability and will make you difficult to fulfill the martial or conjugal rights of your wife. So, do not do it. It is due to these harms that Islam prohibit us from watching indecent things and doing indecent acts so that we may live a happy married life.
Brother here are some steps you can take to overcome this habit :
1. Strengthen Your Faith :
Increase your acts of worship, such as praying regularly, reading Quran, and making dua for strength and guidance. Engage in dhikr and seek forgiveness frequently. Remeber you alone can’t do anything in this matter you will start to abstain and end up doing the same after some time , this willn’t stop until you genuinely seek help from Allah and be ashamed of this very act you commit .
2. Educate yourself & don’t be in ignornace :
Learn about the harmful effects of pornography and masturbation on mental, emotional, and physical health. Understanding the consequences can strengthen your resolve to quit.
عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ خَالِدٍ عَنِ الْعَلاءِ بْنِ رَزِينٍ عَنْ رَجُلٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْخَضْخَضَةِ فَقَالَ هِيَ مِنَ الْفَوَاحِشِ وَنِكَاحُ الأمَةِ خَيْرٌ مِنْهُ.
A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Khalid from al-‘Ala’ ibn Razin from a man who has said the following: “I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about masturbation. He (the Imam) said, ‘It is of the sinful acts. Going to bed with a slave-girl is better than this.’”
Al-Kāfi – Volume 5, Masturbation and Conjugal Relation with Animals, Hadith #1
مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ أَحْمَدَ عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ الْحَسَنِ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ مُصَدِّقِ بْنِ صَدَقَةَ عَنْ عَمَّارِ بْنِ مُوسَى عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فِي الرَّجُلِ يَنْكِحُ بَهِيمَةً أَوْ يَدْلُكُ فَقَالَ كُلُّ مَا أَنْزَلَ بِهِ الرَّجُلُ مَاءَهُ فِي هَذَا وَشِبْهِهِ فَهُوَ زِنًى.
Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ahmad ibn al-Hassan from ‘Amr ibn Sa‘id Musaddiq ibn Sadaqah from ‘Ammar ibn Musa who has said the following: “About the case of a man who engages in sexual intercourse with animals or causes his semen to discharge, abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Whenever a man causes his semen to discharge in this or that way it is fornication.’”
Al-Kāfi – Volume 5, Masturbation and Conjugal Relation with Animals, Hadith #3
3. Identify Triggers :
Recognize the situations, emotions, or environments that trigger your urge to watch porn or masturbate. Avoid these triggers as much as possible .
You exist, but your existence is a result of Allah swt. You are given the freedom of choice, compulsion and struggles every day and every hour. The choices you make right now, be they halaal or haraam draw you closer or away from Allah swt’s grace.
We come to know that if you reduce the amount of spices, onion, garlic – strong smelling aromatics or strong tasting products from your food. Making sure you’re eating healthy, freshly prepared and simple food – it helps reduce the desire. The main reason for this is, you have a lot of subconscious thoughts that arise inside of you throughout the day. They tend to take a grip of your mind in 6-10 hour cycles depending on how much you day dream during the day. See a pretty girl, think nothing of it at the time but while you may not be focused on it consciously, there will be something running in the back of your mind associated with that image and that event.
The analogy I give here is that you can have a redbull or coffee and then basically try to sleep, the stimulatory effects will prevent you from doing this because the mind has all this pent up energy now and nothing to do with it. If you try to repress or suppress your urges by sheer force, then you will end up feeling tremendously guilty and defeated when you have those times where you lapse.
4. Use Technology Very Wisely As There A Lotta Distractions Out Their Even On Simple Apllicatons One Comes Across Something Arousing :
Install filters or accountability software on your devices to restrict access to pornographic content. Some filters are mentioned below :
Qustodio: A comprehensive parental control tool that includes web filtering, time limits, and monitoring.
Net Nanny: Offers real-time filtering and extensive parental controls.
CleanBrowsing: A DNS-based filter that blocks adult content at the network level.
SafeSearch for Chrome: Ensures Google SafeSearch is always on, helping to block explicit content in search results.
The best of them is SafeSearch for Chrome , if you use any of the other browsers u can go for other options in case this isn’t available .
Limit your use of the internet and social media, especially during times when you feel most vulnerable.
Drink cold water which will make you fell less vulnerable to commit that . For that instance invest your energy in something like push-ups which will make you physically tired which will control that lapse for that instance .
5. Stay Patient and Persistent & Never Every Try To Stop This In One Single Day As It Will Only Increase Your Vulnerability For Lapsing & One Trigger & Its Over :
Understand that relapses may happen. If they do, don’t be too hard on yourself. Learn from the experience and renew your commitment to quitting.This isn’t a one day thing if you try to completely abstain from it at once it willn’t ever work for you . You have to give yourself like time limits like first let’s try to abstain it for a number of days then if lapsed , restart , if not give yourself another limit of days . Try to fast a lot that will help in controlling the urge !
Remember, overcoming addiction is a journey, and it’s important to seek Allah’s help and be patient with yourself throughout the process.
~Jazakallah
walaikum assalam,
you can do this by staying busy with others work and also read during namaz on time. whenever it’s night, try not to use mobile phone. keep sleeping on the mobile side so that you cannot do all the haram/ bad things. whenever you feel like watching porn then at that time you have to remind yourself that Allah is watching you and also you have to face Allah in the akhirah and from this thought you are not going to do these bad things.
do exercise daily so that you feel better and you can able to think positive. just do whatever you want to do like playing games, reading books, watching tv, do craft work, help your mom, importantly spend time with your family and avoid your electronic device.
Offer your obligatory prayers and also start offering night pray ( Namz e Shaab)
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatu
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) used to say,
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْهُدَى وَالتُّقَى وَالْعَفَافَ وَالْغِنَى
“O Allah, I ask You for guidance, piety, dignified restraint, and freedom from need. (Allahumma inni as’aluka’l huda wa’t tuqa wa’l `afafa wa’l ghina)” [Sahih Muslim] (See also: Prophetic Supplication for Guidance, Piety, Restraint, and Freedom from Need Prophetic Example in Our Daily Relations)
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The following supplication has been narrated by Qutb al-Din al-Hanafi in his Kitab Ad`iyat al-Hajj wa al-`Umra and is attributed to Hasan al-Basri.
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّى أِسْتَغْفِرُكَ لِكُلِّ ذَنْبٍ قَدَّمْتُ فِيْهِ شَهْوَتِى عَلَى طَاعَتِكَ وَآثَرْتُ فِيهِ مَحَبَّتِى عَلَى أَمْرِكَ فَأَرْضَيْتُ نَفْسِى بِغَضَبِكَ وَعَرَّضْتُهَا لِسَخَطِكَ إِذْ نَهَيْتَنِى وَقَدَّمْتَ إِلَيَّ فِيْهِ إِنْذَارَكَ وَتَحَجَّجْتَ عَلَيَّ فِيْهِ بِوَعِيْدِكَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَأَتُوْبُ إِلَيْكَ
“O Allah, I seek Your forgiveness for every sin in which I gave preference to my base desire over Your obedience and my passion over Your command – thus I contented myself with Your wrath and subjected myself to Your displeasure, though You had forbidden me, presented Your admonition to me, and established the proof of it to me through Your warnings [of punishment in Your revelations]. I seek Your forgiveness, O Allah, and repent to You. (Allahumma inni astaghfiruka li kulli dhambin qaddamtu fihi shahwati `ala ta`atik wa athartu fihi mahabbati `ala amrik fa ardaytu nafsi bi ghadabik wa `arradtuha li sakhatik idh nahaytani wa qaddamta ilayya fihi indharak wa tahhajajta `alayya fihi bi wa`idik wa astaghfiruka Allahumma wa atubu ilayk)”
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اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُوْ فَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلِّهِ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ
“O Allah, Your mercy I am hopeful for, so do not leave me to myself for the blink of an eye, and put all my affairs in order, there is no god but You. (Allahumma rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata `ayanin wa aslih li sha’ni kullihi la ilaha illa anta)” [Abu Dawud]
Say the supplications with heart and sincerity, seeking closeness to the Divine, and seeking to be pulled out of the darkness of sin. Don’t lose heart, take the positive means to stop the sin, and always ask Allah as He loves to be asked.
get married.
And Allah alone gives success.
it’s not easy dealing with addiction and trying to break free from certain habits. It’s great that you’re looking for ways to overcome these challenges. Have you considered seeking support from a counselor or therapist? They can provide guidance and strategies to help you navigate through these issues. Remember, it’s important to be patient with yourself and take small steps towards positive change. You’re not alone in this journey.
Salam brother its hard to get rid of all this but everything has a solution.i suggest to hide your phone from yourself so you cant be able to watch it.on the other hand try reminding your self of hell and as if imam almahdi as is watching you.to make it harder for your self you can burn your hand every single time you watch it .as a conclution all of this will make a self risastence to that and trust me you will be happier and happier as long as you dont watch these .trust me brother you will feel as a victorious allah soldier.Trust me brother and beleave in my words.